ASK A SWINGER: CONVINCING MY WIFE TO SWING

ASK A SWINGER: CONVINCING MY WIFE TO SWING

Anonymous asked you:

I would like to be a swinger but my wife don’t can i still try to be a swinger and do u guys kik?

~Vanilla Hubby

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Vanilla, 

The easy question first: No, we don’t Kik.  Sorry.

The other part of your question is more complicated.  First and foremost, no.  It takes two to tango and it takes even more to swing.  But you absolutely, positively, certainly must have both partners on board and on the same page.  Swinging when one member of the team is hesitant, unsure, or downright opposed is a recipe for quick disaster.  You won’t have fun and your relationship won’t last.  Don’t try to sneak around in the lifestyle.  Most sane couples want absolutely nothing to do with a man cheating on his wife.

Along that line, don’t ever expect one partner to “take one for the team”.  There are varying degrees of how far members of couples are willing to go to make the other happy.  There are times when Maria or I will lower our standards slightly in order to play with someone from another couple when it makes the other happy.  However, we NEVER do anything we aren't comfortable with.

The long answer is more complicated (isn't it always?).  We find that relationships change wildly over time.  What you find abhorrent tonight might be a huge turn-on tomorrow.  We recently met a couple married over 20 years, but only started swinging in the past 18 months.

Keep open and honest communication.  Share your fantasies, hopes, and fears with each other.  Find out why she is opposed.  Assuming your intentions are pure, tell your wife honestly why you want to try swinging.  Be prepared to answer those questions for her.  Let her do research on her own and come to her own conclusions.

Examine your own motives.  Are just hoping to fuck other women with your wife’s permission?  If so, swinging isn’t for you.  In fact, your marriage might not be long for you.  We have met far too many couples who jump into swinging because they are sick of each other, don’t get along, and hope that sex with other people will rekindle their romance.  Um… wrong.  Trust us, that just doesn't happen.  We have seen many-a-marriage laid to waste under that pretense.  

If she does hint at interest, don’t jump the gun.  Ease your way into the lifestyle.  Check out a meet-and-greet or swingers club in your area.  Don’t be over eager.  Remember that everyone has their own speed.

Finally, be prepared for your wife to LOVE fucking other men and/or women.  It’s bound to happen.  Does she like sex?  Yes?  Then she’s going to like sex with other people too.  Early in our relationship, Maria and I hooked up with a newbie couple (swinger dictionary: newbie).  We didn't realize it at the time, but the woman had been dragged into the situation (though not entirely kicking and screaming).  We kicked off in a hot tub before moving into a hotel room.  Things were hot-and-heavy quickly and we ended up in a delightful tangle.  He was fucking maria and I was returning the favor with her.  But she was screaming her head off with mind-blowing, peel-the-wallpaper, tear-the-roof-off orgasms and he couldn't handle it.  Long story short, the night ended with him sobbing in the other room and confessing that he never considered the consequences of watching his woman with another man.

Bottom line:  If your partner’s not ready to swing, you aren’t ready to swing… And just because she expresses curiosity, doesn't mean it’s a green light to hop into bed with other people (especially not the hot girl at the office who thinks your marriage is on the rocks).

Be safe, be honest, be prepared.

Happy Swinging!

~Tony 

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Many Minneapolis Swingers and Minnesota swingers visit AttractionUSA website.

Take back the swinger's lifestyle

We saw this posted on another site and thought we should pass it on.
WE ARE THE 99% ...
...Who the hot ones are probably talking about when they "take one for the team."
... Who are the ones who will chat up or merely tolerate to paw our much hotter partners.
... Whose worst pictures are the ones that sort of look like us on a good day
... Who are getting kinda drunk waiting for that much hotter couple to show up when they said they would (but don't)
... Who don't look good in: knee-high boots, feather boas, Lucite, lame, colored wigs, body paint, anything made of fishnet or Speedos.
... Who have nothing (intentionally) pierced
... Whose tats are neither legible nor cool
... Whose real boobs look like, well, real boobs.
... Who last a fraction (half to a third) of the time the 1% says they do
... Who don't rock climb, ski, hang glide or run the Ironman
... Who don't have shots of themselves in Tuscan villas, Cabo San Lucas or naked in the fucking Fountain of Trevi.
... Who are not the ones at the bottom of that awesome girl-pile
... Who don't straddle motorcycles or other large, vibrating machines while naked and arching a spine-crunching backbend.
... Who would never try DP no matter how much Valium we've been slipped
... Who think turning their "vanilla" friends would be more awkward and weird than hot
... Who think the word "vanilla" is insulting to sundaes
... Who don't go to Lake Havasu, Burning Man or Hedonism and are pissed off about it
... Whose booty calls go unanswered, like a lonely dog's howl echoing through a moonless night
IT'S TIME TO TAKE OUR SWINGER'S LIFESTYLE BACK! WE ARE THE 99%

Swinger's Total Bar Take Over Halloween Bash

It’s time for the mother of all Minnesota and Wisconsin Swinger's Halloween Dance and Party, Saturday, October 29, 2011!!! Get your favorite costume and prepare to boogie all night! This is the time of All Hallows Eve, the time to be ghoulishly sexy, spectacularly spooky & everything in between!!!

It's a Halloween Total Bar Take Over Bash!!!

A SPECIAL VENUE

This is not just a bar; it's more like a night club and restaurant. You'll have a wide array of menu food items to satisfy any taste. It's located on in downtown Danbury, just east of Hinckley and we'll have this fantastic place all to ourselves from 9pm to 2:30am in the morning. For those who have been to one of our Danbury Bar Take Over events, it's at the same place as the last time. For privacy, the exact location will be sent to you with your confirmed reservation.

SPECIAL RATE

The cost to attend is only $12 per person, when you register online by midnight, Wednesday, October 26.

This Halloween Bash is less than two blocks from the St. Croix Casino-Danbury (formerly known as the Hole In The Wall). You have a choice of staying at the Lodge (the older motel) for only $47 per night or at the brand new casino hotel at $100 per night. We are urging you to call today andget a room for Saturday, October 29 because rooms go fast. The phone number for the casino is 1-800-238-8946. You can ask for the new hotel or the Lodge. So get a room and prepare to Stay and Play all night long.

OPEN TO COUPLES AND SINGLES!!!

After you have added your names to list of those attending, please visit AttractionUSA.com to complete your reservation and get exact location or call 320-245-6803/763-250-1122.

See YOU There!!!

Fla. Man Arrested for "Maliciously Molesting" a Vending Machine

PALMETTO, Fla. - A Palmetto man was arrested Monday on charges that claim he “maliciously molested, opened, broke, injured, damaged and inserted his body parts” into a vending machine at a coin laundry establishment in order to get cash out.

According to the Palmetto Police Department report, 20-year-old Mihcael Aguir "maliciously molested" the vending machine at teh Budick Coin Laundry located at 706 Ninth St. W. on August 17th at 11:30 p.m.

The report did not go into detail as to which body parts were used. Aguir admitted to stealing $10 worth of coins from the machine.

Aguiar has been charged with burglary and two violations of probation. He is currently being held in Manatee County jail without bond.
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Spontaneity Swinger's Weekend Party

Friday to Sunday, July 8 - 10, 2011 is the Spontaneity Getaway Weekend at Two Creeks Community. It's time for us to relax and prepare for America's Wildest Number One Swinger's Campout in the Nation, SwingStock, July 13 - 17, 2011.

At this Spontaneity Weekend, we'll do nothing but relax with our friends, doing whatever we so desire. Nothing will be pre-planned. It will be filled with impromptu gaiety. It's sort of like a Lazee Daze Retreat, except many people arriving will be here all week long for SwingStock Primal Instinct.

With Spontaneity there might be impromptu parties, bloody Mary bars, singing over an open fire or a private tryst with one or more people. It's whatever the your mood is!

So come on out to the number one lifestyle friendly community in the Midwest. It's not a KOA or some uptight, restricted naturist or nudist campground with kids. It's a place for free spirited adults over the age 21, to let loose and be your own beautiful self.

Spontaneity is whatever you make it to be!!!!

The weekend rate is only is $60* per site for up to two people for the weekend (Friday staying until Sunday) **. If you would like to come up just for a day, it's $30 for Friday night and $40 per site for Saturday night. Camping in your tent, RV, Travel Trailer, etc., is FREE. Electric hookup is $15 per day and water hookup is only $5 extra per day. Extra days are only $20 per day.

We also have fully equipped camping trailers ("cabins on wheels") with water, electric, microwave oven. coffee pot, stove, and most with air conditioning to rent for your comfort. Please see the reservation form for details.

So come on out, get invigorated at your weekend "cabin" in the north woods. To register online, visit AttractionUSA.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

Meet local swingers

How long have you been in the swinging lifestyle? How often do you swing? Did you come across fun loving swingers? The experience is complete unless and until you come across couples you take you to the extreme level of satisfaction. A couple who understands your needs and fulfills them completely. You need to meet several couples until you get the couple who can satisfy your sexual libido.

If you are a busy person with no spare time to socialize, then you can increase your network through online communities. All you need is a personal computer or a laptop that has the internet accessibility. Now, create an account on a reliable swinger community. Make sure that the owner of the website is a lifestyle member such as FriendshipExpress.org. You can socialize with people through this medium and catch up for the swinger activities.

Party hoppers can join a swinger club to meet lifestyle members. It is a common getaway for swinger couples. You can meet people with similar swinger choices. It is a safe setting for swinger activities as swinger clubs give membership after verifying the identity of the concerned swinger. Hence, it is safer than online communities that have several fake profiles at disposal.

However, your behavior plays a crucial role in your swinging endeavor. You need to act politely and respect the demands of your swinger mate. Your lifestyle practices should be safe and convenient. Speak to your swinger partner and make sure he/she is comfortable with you. Remember, swinging is a pleasure only if the people who are involved, swing without any emotional or sexual issues.

Moreover, you shouldn’t limit yourself to a particular activity. Try to experiment with activities and learn new methods of sexual pleasure. Meet maximum swingers and swing with them. The more you swing, the more are chances of achieving satisfaction and meeting the perfect swinger mate. So, take full advantage of the opportunities and grow your swinging network beyond cast, creed, religion and geographical region.

Swingers Party, October 1 - 3, 2010 near Sandstone, Minnesota

Swinger's News Release

Do you consider yourself a swinger? Do you like the Oscars? Do you like camping at a fun campground with other couples? Do you like dancing to Disco Music?

Well, this is a swinger's Disco 70's and Rave Awards Weekend at Two Creeks Campground just East of Sandstone, near the St. Croix State Forest, east of Hinckley, Minnesota.

Couples and singles are welcome to attend. Visit AttractionUSA.com for more details about this upcoming event.